While many of today’s fathers don’t have the same schedule I do, I’m encouraged by the growing trend of dads hanging out at the park around 3:30. Still, many workplaces expect their employees, especially dads, to prioritize the job in all situations. One corporate accountant told me he sneaks out a back exit to pick up his child from school. Another friend took time off to care for his sons while his wife was out of town on business. Upon returning to work, his boss joked, “We must not be keeping you busy enough if you have time to go play with the kids.”

Fathers have an uphill battle to alter work stereotypes and expectations. But, I believe it’s worth the struggle, even if all isn’t perfect when you make the changes. I still find myself drifting to the computer, while the kids run around, to check work e-mail. Sometimes I fail to return work messages while I’m at Piano Play class. It’s kind of a mess. 

But it’s a messy lifestyle that fits my peculiar personality and allows me to be there for Benjamin when’s his tummy’s upset and for Jacob when he’s looking for a parent to hug at 2pm on a Thursday. For now, I’ll live with the mess. I’ll have plenty of time to clean up when they’re in college.

About the Author:
Gregory Keer is a writer, teacher, and father of three boys. He can be reached at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it or at www.familymanonline.com.

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